Nemo's Communication Odyssey
Lessons in Resilience and Understanding
4.11.24
Let's take a trip down memory lane – remember the movie Finding Nemo? Marlin, Nemo's dad, gets mad at Nemo, yells, and blames him. It was a heated argument, filled with 'you' language and harsh tones.
But what if there's a different path to effective communication? An approach called the "Shit Sandwich". It's about layering good-bad-good. Esteemed relationship researchers, John and Julie Gottman, indicate that the way a fight starts is usually how it ends. So, it's better to kick off with a gentle tone.
Let's rewrite Marlin's outburst:
"Nemo, when I saw you swim towards the boat, I felt scared, upset, and panicked. I lost my cool and yelled, and that wasn't right. Next time, I aim to speak more calmly. All I ask is for you to seek permission before venturing into the open ocean. Is that okay?”
This framework centers on 'I' statements. It focuses on communicating your feelings and sets clear expectations for the future.
Put this method to the test and watch your communication skills transform.
Book Recommendation - "The Love Prescription" from John & Julie Gottman” OR "I Hear You" from Sorenson
